Due to learning some tough lessons, my initial reaction is no way! However, there could be a happy medium when I give it more thought. For example, when leaders are asked to join their team members for drinks after work, the leader should be thoughtful before they respond. For instance, repeatedly declining such offers can send the message that the leader does not particularly like one or more people in the group. Conversely, before saying yes, the leader should also take care before accepting. Socializing after work hours with staff can have a significant impact on morale. However, it should not be a regular occurrence. And when it happens, the leader should be mindful of the following:

Boundaries

The leader will have to manage daily, often holding staff members accountable.

In an article on themuse.com, writer Jennifer Winter recalled the difficulty she faced with in-office friendships as a young manager. “I was young and eager to please my new staff while still earning my management stripes. I had a great team, and friendships were easily formed among all of us,” she wrote. “It was great for the first few months, but then I had to start, well, managing them. That’s when things got sticky.”

“Suddenly, I was no longer their friend or drinking buddy; I was management. Enforcing policies, discussing performance, and conducting annual reviews became painful and awkward for all involved. All because I got too involved.”

Avoiding Possible Career-Ending Situations

While out with subordinates, leaders should:

  • Have a one-drink limit.
  • Not be the last one to leave.
  • Be mindful if someone has become too impaired to drive.
  • Never speak ill of other team members who are not present.
  • Make sure not to share about their personal life.

Below are some alternatives to socializing with subordinates after work:

  • Office potlucks – There could be “cook-off” competitions.
  • Day retreats – Close the section/office for the day and conduct an offsite wellness retreat.
  • Offer amusement parks or museum tickets for staff members to meet and bring other family members.
  • Suggest breakfast instead.

The good news is, when subordinates invite you into their after-work life, they usually have the best intentions. They are sending the message that they want to spend quality time with you. The key is to find the most appropriate activities to accomplish the same thing.